“You life is a reflection of what you hold inside of you, and what you hold inside of you is always under your control.”
With approximately three weeks left in 2018, everyone is moving full steam, trying to decide on how they can make the next year better than this one! I love the optimism that comes during this season, and how everyone is looking to tap into their gifts and what they want out of life. One of the best things I’ve done for myself, is to create a career for myself where I am also able to combine the things I’m passionate about. In doing that, my gift has made room for me! I have been presented with opportunities, allowing me to operate in my gift, not only providing me with financial gain, but with a feeling of accomplishment and fulfillment.
I had a talk with a client one day, and he told me “When you’re operating in fear, you can talk yourself out of so much.” He went on to describe how we become a meteorologist, a psychologist, a psychic, and so on, when we are thinking of why things won’t work. The weather will be bad, people won’t like my idea, it’s not the right time, what if I fail – excuses for not executing. However, what if none of those things exist, and you can truly walk in your gift! Walking in your gift does not mean that you have to quit your 9-5. Heck, your 9-5 could be the very place that allows you to do that. It does mean that you must have an honest conversation with yourself about what will suit you best, in this moment.
“You don’t need permission or creative license to design the life you know you are worthy of, so adjust your crown and prepare to rule.” ~ June Ambrose
I talk about, in many of my blogs, how I worked a 9-5 and ran my personal business, for SEVEN years, simultaneously. I switched jobs quite a bit, because non of them felt like a really good fit for me. In hindsight, I realized that I was the common denominator, and the only work that I have been truly happy with, is the work I’ve done for myself. I knew that at some point, I’d end up working for myself, but I did not know when and what would be the determining factor. Honestly, I didn’t know until three months out, that it was time to quit. In short, I was unreasonably busy, my business was growing, and being a present mom was important to me. Once I had that conversation with myself, I was ready to leave that day! I ended up waiting, three months, until I got my bonus!
Working for myself has also allowed me the flexibility to do other work, that I’m passionate about, like Corporate Momming! Starting this blog has allowed me to connect with many like-minded moms, and business women. It has further allowed me to tap into other ways in which people need what I have to offer. My gifts are still making room for me!
If you struggle with identifying your gift(s), it’s the thing(s) that don’t go away. The thoughts and actions that constantly resurface, even when you’re purposely avoiding them! Maybe you’re good at creating, planning, encouraging others, or something as simple as writing! Whatever it is, they all have the ability to allow you the flexibility to operate in them, as you see fit! Choosing not to, will cause constant dissatisfaction! Every job, and every tasks will become daunting experiences because you are doing the work to fulfill someone else’s vision and not your own.
This time around, while doing vision boards, grab pen and paper, and write down your ideas to go along with the photos you attach. Also include language around, ways in which you can find more fulfillment in the work that you do! Remove the focus from money (I can almost promise, it will come!) and spend time really digging into the work that makes you happy! Also, hold yourself accountable to that by constantly checking in and determining where or if adjustments are needed.