Insecure: Is it 5 O’Clock Yet?

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I’ve spent approximately 12 years working in Corporate America. I’ve worked as an accountant for multiple organizations, and for the last 7 years I’ve simultaneously worked on an entrepreneurial endeavor. My personal business has never affected my ability to perform in my corporate role, and when I found myself in a position where it was possible, I had already made a decision to leave.

Corporate America has given me quite a bit.  I have been afforded the opportunity to work in multiple industries, and have been equipped to serve and adapt in any environment. I have gained a ton of technical knowledge, in and outside of my industry. I have gained soft skills, made friends, and most of all my skin has been made TOUGH!  Working in Corporate America has not been all bad; there are perks to working in a corporate setting.  There is structure, and many times, there’s financial security. So, why was I constantly looking for 5 o’clock?

I will begin by saying two things: (1) These have been MY experiences during the time I spent in Corporate America, (2) while the subject in itself may be controversial, it needs to be discussed, …oh, one more, (3) I am not racist nor sexist. I am simply sharing my experiences.  So, if I refer to any race or gender, in a manner in which you’re not comfortable with…I am simply sharing MY truths. However, I will refrain from being very specific, with naming companies, for obvious reasons.

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The day after I posted my first official blog on Corporate Momming, I got this text from a friend, verbatim, “…Can you please give me some pointers on how you survived Corporate America, with all the black girl magic? I am struggling with my current employer and the fact that they told me to ‘conform, or else’.  Whenever you get a moment, I’d appreciate any advice.  Thanks.” THIS IS A REAL THING; IT’S A REAL ISSUE!

Honestly, I don’t know where to begin here, and if I share everything, we’d need a couple posts….and maybe I’m not opposed to doing that, I don’t know! However, for now I will speak about my experience, overall. I will start with my college experience.  I am a graduate of The University of Michigan – Ross School of Business, ranked No.7 in Best Business Schools in the WORLD, not Michigan or the United States, the WORLD.  I did not get in due to affirmative action, nor did I breeze past some test or anything.  I graduated an elite high school with a 3.9 overall GPA, and attended Michigan on a full scholarship. I earned my spot, love!

There were about 300 students in my graduating class at Ross, and of that number there were only about 10-15 blacks. While Ross was a great school, I don’t think there was enough focus on diversity and inclusion, at the time. I struggled with finding resources while there, and it wasn’t until I went down the road to Eastern Michigan, for grad school, that I got the real help I needed. Professors and administrators who advocated for minority students.


Upon graduating college, I worked at two of the most prominent global accounting firms.  At one of the firms, I had a friend who helped me get recruited.  I remember having my first meeting with my assigned partner (who was a white male), and he told me basically that it’s difficult being a black woman in the firm, and that my expectation shouldn’t be to grow as fast as she (my friend) had…*rolls eyes*, oh ok. I had then been partnered with a buddy, who was a black woman, and in so many words she told me to be careful about how I speak because black women are viewed as aggressive and angry.  This is all a weird way to be onboard, right? RIGHT.

Well, much of professional career has gone like that!  I have found that a black woman exuding excellence and confidence of any sort, makes people uncomfortable! It’s almost as if you get hired to remain in the same position you’ve always been in, but expected to do way more than you’re compensated for.  I have found that non-blacks (men and women), when dealing with black women, are extremely passive aggressive.  They (non-blacks) struggle with articulating their concerns, and many times will attempt to throw you under the bus, instead of addressing their lack, in communication.


It is not something that I’ve just witness for myself. In the last 5 years, I’ve seen friends and colleagues be fired from jobs, or completely tormented, because their excellence exposes insecurities of their leadership! Showing up at jobs they hate, seeking out therapy, and causing self-inflicted health issues, all in the name of climbing the corporate ladder. I’ve seen sexual and racial discrimination go unanswered and ignored, and culprits moved around the company to avoid being terminated. Is it 5 o’clock, yet?

Let’s not forget the issue of hair. I can remember a time I came to work with my hair braided and my direct manager, lifted one of my braids and said “wow, how do they do this?… how long would something like this take?…my friend has a mixed daughter and maybe we can help control her hair with these…” …THEN she SNIFFED my braids! GIRL, (1) Don’t touch my hair! (2) Stop acting like a black woman’s hair is a science project! (3) You’re annoying!! (4) Is it 5 o’clock, yet?


Diversity and inclusion efforts don’t address the real concerns, in most cases, we are left feeling like Issa, insecure.  If you watch the hit HBO series, Issa is stuck in a dead-end position that she can’t afford to leave.  We watch her get tongue-lashed for trying to problem solve, and is treated like she’s an idiot, when she’s an intelligent, college-educated woman.  She’s stays and deals with it, and the problems begin to spill into her personal life.

Much of what I talked about just scratches the surface of why I did not like Corporate America.  I don’t miss it, the constant checking for 5 o’clock, because then I could be done with that shit!  I wrote a post discussing how I found my peace, when I left my 9-5, and I will work as hard as I can, to never go back.  For those working, and experiencing similar circumstances, I encourage you to talk about and address the concerns real-time. Don’t wait until you have anxiety or are being walked out, to communicate what’s happening.


You Don’t Know it All!

“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navidgate a course to their destination.” – John C. Maxwell

Navigating through ones career can be scary, and sometimes daunting! Not because we hate our jobs, but more so because we don’t know how to get to the next level, or unsure of what the next level is, altogether! There are even instances where advancement is all about who you know (corporate politics are real), and you don’t know anyone!

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Early on, in my accounting career, I didn’t know too many accountants who looked like me.  There weren’t really any in my classes, and I was really just choosing to major in accounting because I enjoyed the class!  My mom was a hairstylist, I was a first generation graduate, in my immediate family. There was really nothing anyone in my family could tell me about a career in accounting or corporate politics, and I soon realized I needed a mentor.

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On the Other Side of my 9-5, was PEACE!

“The best math you can ever learn is how to calculate future cost of current decisions”

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I can remember attending networking events with my business partner, and asking every self-employed individual, “How did you know it was time to leave your day job?”.  No one really gave a straight answer; it would always be something generic, like “when you know, you know”, or “you can just feel it”.  Never any real instructions on the steps taken to become a solely self-employed AND successful entrepreneur.  I would listen to Ted Talks and wait for speakers to tell me the magical answer, and I’d leave thinking “YOU HAD ONE JOB”!!! Right? WRONG!

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Shop til you Drop!

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On a lighter note today, I am going to talk about one of my favorite parts of being a girl mom…a mom in general!  SHOPPING…well DRESSING my daughter, doing her hair, and all things girly!  I’m going to share with where I shop, how I shop, and how I dress my daughter.  This will probably be one of the most easiest and informal post that I make. (Disclaimer: For those who need it…Yes, clothes and appearance aren’t  everything, and YES education is a priority in my household…and God…and family…happy? COOL)

OKAY! Starting with where I shop. I am a bargain shopper! I like nice things at discounted prices! Obviously kids grow super fast, so I am mindful of the amount of things I buy, as well as the amount of money I spend on them.  So, if I had a top three I’d pick Zara, Janie & Jack, and Nordstrom (rack included).  I also like the Saks, GAP, TJMaxx, Macy’s, Target and sometimes Old Navy!  Overall, I am a department store shopper.  I don’t like clutter, I like availability, easy access and, again, GOOD PRICES. Boutiques and overly crowded stores stress me out.  I rarely shop in them for myself, and definitely avoid them for my daughter.  I like to shop at stores that stand behind the quality of their product and I just feel like boutiques don’t…no offense, but if I rip a shirt I got from a boutique, I can forget them being willing to exchange it.  However, department stores and chain retails usually stand behind their brand and products.

So, you’re probably thinking these stores are really expensive and you’re absolutely right.  However, I only buy things on sale…like, SALE SALE.  So this is how I do it.  I shop a season or two in advance.  I know that Zara and Janie & Jack have huge sales at the start of summer and during the December/January timeframe.  Janie & Jack will even offer an additional 20% off the sales price, making prices 70% to 80% off.  I purchase items a size up, and for the next season.  Nordstrom sales are hit or miss, but when you hit, YOU HIT! The same applies for Macy’s.  The GAP also has amazing sales, just about every weekend.  However, I don’t shop there too often because, now that my daughter has real height, their bottoms are too short for her.

I usually never buy “outfits”. I always purchase separates.  This way, I have a lot of options, and we get a lot wear out of everything!  I also stopped buying a lot of “nice” things, because my daughter goes to daycare everyday, and comes home looking rough (kids can be wild)! So I pick a few nice items, and when wear them on special occasions.  Usually school attire is leggings and t-shirts, or athletic wear. I also let her mess up the same couple pair of shoes, because…recess!

Outside of school, I mix and match pieces as I would for myself. Generally, I buy things a size up to maximize the amount of time she can wear them. So when things are a little big, I go for a look that allows for a loose fitting look. Another thing I do is, I keep pants that would look cute as leggings! When my daughter has grown in length, she can then wear a cute capris look.

Finally, I don’t buy things I can’t wash, myself. I refuse to take a toddlers clothes to the cleaners, as my life is busy enough! I could talk about shopping all day! Feel free to ask questions in the comments.

Oh, and for those of you in the Metro Detroit area, don’t forget to join us at the Mom-2-Mom sales, on 8.18.18!


Disney is for ALL Ages!

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The travel bug is real, in my household. Sometimes more real than I’d like it to be, but that’s life when many of your closest friends live out-of-state!  My daughter has been traveling with me since the womb. During my pregnancy, I traveled up to 37 weeks, taking on places like Dubai, Costa Rica, Germany, and a ton of local travel! So, naturally she flies very well and is accustomed to the airport routine.

Last week, we conquered our 3rd American visit to Disney. We’ve done Disneyland – Anaheim, CA, when my daughter was 1. At 2, we did the four-day  Disney Dream Cruise to the Bahamas, and just yesterday we took on Disney World in Orlando, FL. The final two were less than 4 months apart. Each experience was completely different. The main difference was age, and her ability to enjoy it! Everything else was small nuances relating to activities available for toddlers.

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